Sunday, June 14, 2015

GOAT!



Ok, first, watch that 60 second video, it's hilarious. I'll wait.

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SEE?! Hilarious.

Oldy but a goody. Interestingly, on a group I follow someone posted this video and said, "how come everyone thinks it's funny to call this goat ADHD? Am I the only one who thinks that's rude?"

There were 14 comments under it and in varying degree's of kindness and flat out rude, they all said the same thing: "it's harmless, PC NATION ANYONE?, my kids liked it."

I actually agree with both sides of the conversation, so I posted a comment and after I read it back to myself, then I decided it's worth re-posting my comment here, simply because it's always been something I think about when it comes to ADHD in particular. I'd love to know your thoughts on this, or any success you have had personally raising awareness or explaining ADHD to your friends, family, or beyond.So with no further ado (or enjoying the sound of my own fingers tapping), I give you my response to the post about the funny goat:


I would like to respond to your sentiment rather than the video because as an ADHD advocate, one of my greatest struggles is that ADHD  does not get the same respect as words like "autism" or "dyslexia" and the idea of having an ADHD awareness month that people would proudly get behind like autism or breast cancer is impossible because the word ADHD is fundamentally misunderstood and often polarizing.

I don't mind that this person said the goat was ADHD in the video, I mind that my child shares a brain condition with me that isn't taken seriously. The solution to this isn't to police how people cope with it, because humor is absolutely part of my tool bag of survival skills, but with ongoing public education and more advanced understanding of how the ADHD brain works, I hope in a couple more generations this label will lose some of it's "only for a punchline" stigma, and be able to used in context of A LOT of conversations.

I feel like at 36, my generation was one of the first to have true access to the label with some resources. Now as a mother of a ten year old, the resources and information available to me were astonishing compared to what I had, so I pray by the time my grandchildren and great grandchildren are entering school, the amount of people who can joke and nurture and problem solve will continue to have grown like it did even in the 20 years between my diagnoses and my sons.

No one would watch a video like this and point to a goat sitting in the background by itself and say, "haha, that goat has autism!" but instead of being the PC generation, hopefully the education of what autism is will also continue to spread, and humor can be a coping skill there, too!

With all physical and mental conditions, joking ideally should originate from individuals, their family, and their loved ones who have proper context and compassion. It would never be funny for some to point at someone in a wheelchair and say, "hey, it's a human roller skate!" But if it's your brother you love coming into the room in his wheelchair, you're allowed to as a greeting, a little twisted humor can go a long way, especially since he can respond by calling you a flamingo and making you bribe him to tag along with his wheel chair pass to skip rides at theme parks.

ADHD needs to be taken more seriously, ALONG with what is undoubtedly endearing, sometimes comical, and definitely recognizable about it.

That's just my two cents ;)

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